Overwork and Stress? or Commitment and Joy?

On this Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day – what values will you be modeling for the kids?

They say kids learn much more from how we behave than from what we tell them in words. What was my daughter learning from my behavior?

“I don’t ever want to be a mommy when I grow up,” my 5-year-old daughter calmly announced.

“Why, honey?”

“Because mommies are too tired.”

I felt like my little girl had punched me in the gut.

She said it because I modeled it. “Mommies are too tired.”

It’s true, I’m not sure the phrase “too tired” was strong enough for how I felt, all the time.

I was working full-time as a health-care provider. I was pregnant with my second. And, of course, other issues on the home front demanded my attention (aren’t there ALWAYS “other issues” on the home front?)

I was sure I couldn’t possibly slow down. My patients needed me, my family needed me.  Where could I cut corners? Nowhere that I could see.

It was not long after that when I came down with pneumonia.  Which did stop me in my tracks, for a while.

And somehow, while I was really sick, everybody muddled along without me. It took me way too many years to learn that if I stepped back some – without getting sick — they all would have continued muddling along.

Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day

Mother and child hug on city street on Take our Daughters and Sons to Work Day

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Why am I telling you all this?  Because tomorrow is Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day. Ask yourself: what are you modeling for the kids in your life? Are you modeling deep caring and ferocious responsibility that is ALSO balanced by a love of life and happiness and relationships?

If you’d like to have a free half-hour conversation with me about what such a balance would look like in your life, the obstacles in your way, and a plan for making it a reality, click this link. There, you can choose the day and time for our conversation that works best for you.  It’s time to move into a less-stressed, more joyous reality.

What will you be modeling this Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day?

 

 

 

 

— Beth Genly is the principal Burnout Recovery Mentor at Burnout Solutions, and co-author (with Dr. Marnie Loomis, ND) of Save Yourself from Burnout: A System to Get Your Life Back.